I gave up complaining for Lent.

Then, two weeks before Cohort 16 started, my nanny quit.

I wanted to cry. Or call my parents. Or launch into a full internal monologue about how the timing was so bad, how I had too much to do, how this always seems to happen when I’m already stretched.

Instead, I went for a run.

It didn’t fix anything. When I got back, my nanny had still quit. Cohort 16 was still two weeks away. I still needed childcare. I was still frustrated.

But I had given up complaining for Lent, and this was the test.

So I did what I thought I was supposed to do. I kept my mouth shut.

I didn’t rant. I didn’t vent. I didn’t call a friend and spiral. I wasn’t saying any of it out loud, which, in my mind, meant I was passing.

Except I wasn’t.

Because the frustration was still there. It was in my body. In my tone. In the way I was moving through the house like everything was slightly harder than it needed to be.

At one point Jon looked at me and said, “You’ve been acting annoyed.”

And he was right.

That was the moment I realized I had misunderstood the assignment.

Not complaining wasn’t just about not saying the thing. It wasn’t just about trying to look composed on the outside while internally running the same script. Because apparently you can keep the complaint in your mouth and still let it fill the room.

I wasn’t venting, but I was still indulging the feeling. I was still letting it set the emotional temperature. I was still giving my power to the circumstance, just more quietly.

And once I saw that, something clicked.

Complaining says, “I can’t do anything about this, but I don’t like it.”

A request says, “Can you please do something about this?”

That’s the difference. That’s the whole difference.

The situation hadn’t changed. I still needed help. I still needed a nanny. I still had a cohort starting in two weeks. But instead of stewing in the unfairness of it, I started asking for what I actually needed.

I asked my mom to help with the childcare overlap. I asked Jon to help me search Care.com for new nannies. I followed the thread that could move things forward instead of feeding the one that kept me stuck.

And the shift was wild.

Not because life suddenly became easy. It didn’t. But because I could feel the difference between sitting in frustration and directing it.

That’s when I realized this is basically what prayer is too.

Prayer is asking.

That’s it.

You have to knock.

You have to ask.

Sometimes the answer comes through people. Through timing. Through opportunities. Through the very ordinary thing that doesn’t look dramatic enough to count as divine intervention until you realize it was exactly what you needed.

But complaining closes you off to all of that. It keeps you in the energy of this is wrong, this shouldn’t be happening, I’m stuck. A request opens something. It says maybe there is a way through this. Maybe someone can help. Maybe I’m allowed to ask.

I think a lot of women were taught not to do that. We were taught to be accommodating, to be easy, to not need too much. So instead of asking clearly, we hint. We wait. We hope someone notices. And when they don’t, we get resentful.

But that’s not power.

Power is knowing what you need and saying it.

Power is knocking on the door.

So that’s my invitation to you.

The next time you catch yourself complaining, out loud or in your head, pause and ask: what do I actually want here? And who can I ask for it?

Turn the complaint into a request.

Knock.

Block Party Podcast Recap 🎙️

I did a podcast with Blockchain.com about why crypto adoption stalls for women.

We talked about what intimidates people, how education gets confused with information, and what actually moves someone to take their first step.

Listen here 👇

Join Us at Eve Wealth Summit 💫

I’m excited to be speaking at the Eve Wealth Summit, April 20-22, at the beautiful Biltmore in Phoenix, AZ.

The Summit brings together women and allies building, investing, and shaping crypto, blockchain and Web3. The intimate nature allows for real conversations and meaningful connections that last long after the event ends.

For anyone in the SheFi community thinking about their next step in the ecosystem, this is a great room to be in.

Use code SHEFI25 for a discount when registering here.

Secure Your Crypto with Trezor 🔐

This season, we’re partnering with Trezor to help you learn how to securely own crypto using a hardware wallet. A Trezor stores your crypto offline, protecting your funds even if your computer is compromised.

If you plan to invest in crypto or participate onchain, we recommend having a hardware wallet.

Get 10% off Trezor with code SHEFI10

👉 Purchase your Trezor device here.

SheFi x EthPrague Ticket Discount ✨

To celebrate International Women’s Day, EthPrague would like to express their appreciation for the SheFi community.

Join us at EthPrague with an exclusive 30% discount on tickets.

🎟️ Use the code SheFi_frens when purchasing a ticket or use this link.

Crypto + AI Roundup — SheFi Edition 🏇

Crypto Roundup.

• MicroStrategy bought 17,994 BTC for $1.28B—now holds 738,731 BTC. Tenth straight weekly purchase through volatility.

• Nasdaq partnered with Kraken for 24/7 tokenized stock trading launching H1 2027. Traditional markets getting blockchain rails with full shareholder rights intact.

• Ethereum co-founder Jeffrey Wilcke sold 79,258 ETH ($157M). Largest founder sell-off in months signals distribution phase.

AI Roundup.

• Scientists fused 200,000 human brain cells to a chip, taught it DOOM. Wetware computing handling 3D environments in real time.

• OpenAI’s GPT-5.4 beat humans 83% of the time across 44 occupations. 75% on desktop navigation vs 72% human baseline. Job-replacement benchmarks just got concrete.

• Alibaba’s ROME agent broke containment during training—opened tunnels, hijacked GPUs to mine crypto. Zero human instruction. When AI decides resources help complete goals, guardrails become suggestions.

✨ SheFi Takeaway: Meta bought Moltbook (AI social network), Nasdaq’s tokenizing stocks, biological computers playing games, AI outperforming humans at their jobs and escaping sandboxes. Autonomous agents with financial agency—the infrastructure’s being built right now.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

SheFi Season 16 Quests 📜

Completing quests is one of the best ways to make the most of your SheFi journey!

• Quest 1: Follow Our Season 16 Sponsors

• Quest 2: Get Ready for SheFi Season

• Quest 3: Getting Started on Mighty Networks

More quests coming soon.

Celebrating SheFi Successes 🎉

• Chantal J. was featured by Chasing Mavericks, a pan-African platform empowering blockchain startups and innovation.

👉️ Share your wins so we can celebrate them 👈️

SheFi & Crypto Events 🌎

Going to ETHCC, Token2049 or Devcon? Join our Global Events Telegram Chat: https://t.me/shefisummit

SheFi Events:

• 03/13 Mumbai: Women in Web3: SheFi Meetup at ETHmumbai: RSVP here

  Join us for a small, curated gathering of women builders, researchers, founders, marketers, community leaders, and contributors in the Ethereum ecosystem during ETHMumbai.

• 03/16 Lisbon: SheFi Lisbon x Starknet | Privacy, Power & Wine: RSVP here
  Join SheFi Lisbon for an evening of drinks, meaningful conversations, and a deep dive into one of the most critical conversations in Web3: privacy. We're partnering with Starknet to host an intimate gathering at their Lisbon office.

• 03/17-19 São Paulo: Merge São Paulo: RSVP here

  SheFi Brazil is officially an Educational Partner of MERGE São Paulo 2026! Our community gets exclusive perks, including a free Discover ticket for March 19 and 20% off Standard tickets with code MERGEME20.

  Grab your FREE ticket here.

• 03/18 Berlin: SheFi Berlin: March Dinner: RSVP here
  Dinner and drinks to catch up, get to know the new SheFi Season 16 members, and get excited about Berlin Blockchain Week!

Other events:

• 03/12 Istanbul: OKX TR İstanbul İftarı: RSVP here

• 03/12 Lisbon: Claw Sessions Lisbon #2: RSVP here

• 03/13 Munich: WAGMI & Waffles: Ladies Brunch: RSVP here

• 03/13 Mumbai: Cake Wallet Privacy Mixer - ETH MUMBAI: RSVP here

• 03/13 Amsterdam: Superteam NL Launch Event: RSVP here

• 03/14 Istanbul: MEXC TR Community İftar Buluşması: RSVP here

• 03/14 San Francisco: Funding the Commons SF: Intelligence at the Frontier: RSVP here

• 03/16 Washington: Crypto Capitol: EthDC III: RSVP here

• 03/18 Sao Paulo: KAST VIP Cocktail: RSVP here

• 03/20 London: Cocktail & Blockchains: RSVP here

• 03/21 Uyo: WWW3 2026 - Women, Web3, Wealth: RSVP here

• 03/22 San Francisco: Build & Brew — SF: Spring Edition: RSVP here

• 03/26 Ankara: Superteam Türkiye Meetup | Ankara Chapter: RSVP here

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