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Every new cohort, a woman messages me to say she's been watching SheFi from the sidelines for a year, sometimes two, sometimes three — and she finally jumped in. It's one of my favorite things to read. And also one of the most heartbreaking.
When I ask why, the answer is almost always some version of the same thing: I kept telling myself I should be able to figure this out on my own. I'd open Twitter, watch half a tutorial, get lost, close tabs. Feel terrible about myself. For two years.
And then one day, the should-ing stops. "I got tired of should-ing myself," one woman told me.
That's it. That's always it.
I swore off the word "should" a long time ago. It's the most dangerous word in the English language — and I'm not being dramatic. Saying should is living in a fantasy. It's living out of alignment with who you are and what reality actually is. I should be further along. I should be able to do this alone. I should already understand this by now.
You can "should" your way to nothingness.
Here's the truth: we love to "should" ourselves, especially as women. I should be able to learn this on my own. I should be more disciplined. I should want to go to that AI meetup on Friday night. And when we don't do the thing we think we should do, we don't question the "should." We question ourselves.
But what if the "should" is the problem?
Nobody self-teaches everything. Nobody builds alone. We all had colleagues, mentors, people who opened doors — whether we noticed it or not. Just because a woman didn't show you the way doesn't mean women can't show each other.
We've turned asking for help into a moral failure. We act like wanting support means we're not smart enough, not working hard enough, not enough. And that belief keeps us stuck. Not because we can't learn — but because we've decided we should already know.
I think about my own life. I'm the type of person who learns best surrounded by other people who are figuring it out too. I could "should" myself for that. Or I could just accept it. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
There is nothing wrong with you.
The women who finally message me? They join. Six weeks later, they have wallets, DeFi positions, and group chats full of women they text every day. Not because they finally became the person they thought they should be. Because they stopped pretending that person existed.
You can accept reality and change your life. Or you can "should" yourself into paralysis. Those are the options.
So if you've been watching from the sidelines — this is your season. Come do it with us. Six weeks. That's it.
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Crypto + AI Roundup — SheFi Edition 🏇
Crypto Roundup.
Meta's bringing stablecoin payments to Instagram, WhatsApp, and Facebook in H2 2026—3 billion users getting crypto rails partnered with Stripe. Not building their own token this time, using third-party infrastructure after Libra/Diem died in regulatory hell. When the world's largest social platforms give billions of people frictionless money movement, banking apps become legacy tech overnight.
Ethereum Foundation staked 70,000 ETH to fund its operations—first time the nonprofit is putting its treasury to work generating yield. Started with 2,016 ETH deposit using Dirk and Vouch validator tools. Institutions are learning: idle capital has a cost.
Kraken launched 24/7 perpetuals trading for tokenized US stocks with 20x leverage. Trading stocks like crypto—around the clock, high leverage, onchain settlement. The line between TradFi and DeFi just disappeared.
AI Roundup.
Google dropped Lyria 3 (music) and Pomelli Photoshoot (product photos) last week—we tested both and they're absurd. Upload one photo, get a studio-quality product shoot. Type one prompt, get a full 30-second song with vocals and lyrics. $5,000 photoshoots for cents, production music in seconds. We're past the "AI as assistant" phase—it's taking over entire creative verticals simultaneously.
Anthropic accused DeepSeek and two other Chinese AI labs of running "industrial-scale" distillation campaigns—24,000 fraudulent accounts, 16M+ exchanges with Claude to train their own models. The new AI battleground isn't benchmarks, it's platform abuse and operational security.
Big Tech will invest $650 billion in AI infrastructure this year, up from $410 billion in 2025. Alphabet, Amazon, Meta, Microsoft all curbing share buybacks to preserve cash for chips, data centers, and power. Bridgewater warns the AI boom is entering a "more dangerous phase.
✨ SheFi Takeaway: Meta's betting AI agents need native payment rails. Stripe owns Bridge (stablecoin infra), Stripe CEO joined Meta's board April 2025, now they're integrating payments across 3B users. Banking apps die when AI agents get better UX + open finance rails. The entire internet's getting a new money layer the same year AI becomes the interface.
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